YOU CAN BE AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN AND STILL NEED A MAN

Hey Gals! 
So if you're reading this you are probably something like me or just curious why the heck I would write this. A few weeks ago I was making my brother a wooden sign for his Christmas present and when I got to the cutting of the wood I thought to myself, do I know how to do this? 

The reality of it is that I had no idea what saw to use, jigsaw? table saw? the old fashioned kind? 
I had no idea... but stubborn independent me was going to figure it out! 
I picked up the wood measured where it needed to be cut, put on my safety glasses, and off I went to experiment. Just so you know, DON'T use a jigsaw! 
But as I struggled to get everything correct I thought to myself Dang! I need a man! 

Now if you know me then you know that I am an extremely strong and independent woman. Independence is truly the driving force behind everything I do, since as long as I can remember I’ve had a burning desire to never, ever rely on someone else to take care of me. Never ask for help. And to figure it out on my own. 

This independent nature has served me extremely well through life. It fuels my ambition, it stems some confidence, it empowers me to seek knowledge and to make all my big dreams come true. 

We live in a society where feminism is at an all time high, where women are fighting for their independence and working their bootys off to live up to their full potential. It is a beautiful time to be alive and a female. However I think parts of feminism are a load of bologna. 

Yeah I said it. Get over it. 

Here's the thing, I will forever be independent. I won't ask for help unless I truly need it but I've learned that asking for help doesn't show weakness. I won't look to a man for worth. But I will look to the good Lord for it. Im all for the anything you can do, I can do better: even with one arm haha but the reality is that there are just some things that the average female can't do that men can, or can't do as well as men can. My great-grandfather lifted a car off someone once, and no matter how much I go to the gym I just don't have the ability to do that because I am not a fully developed male. 

I had a conversation with a few friends once about men and women being equal and I'm sorry but I don't think that men and women should be equal. Call me old-fashioned but I will forever stick to the roots the Bible teaches on men and women's roles. Now I'm not saying that these don't go both ways because they do partially but for example.... If an intruder came into my home I would immediately grab my children and protect them with all my ability and I do expect my husband to take the leader role in the home and protect his family and then Ill protect my children next with all my power. 

ROLE OF THE HUSBAND

• Leadership (Influence) : Scripture makes it very clear that the man should be a leader. A leader of his home and to have a healthy control of his life. 
  • 1 Timothy 3:  The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,
    
    
  • Ephesians 5: 21-24 talks about how the women should submit to her husband. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church. However, the head of every man needs to be Christ. 
  • Therefore, a biblically-based husband should influence his family. Husbands are not dictators, they should not demand, they should not rule over their wives. Instead, husbands should influence their wives and families in accordance with biblical teaching. They should exemplify, with their voice and their actions, attributes that bring glory to God and value to their spouse and family. The fruit of a good biblically-based husband is a strong, confident, spiritually mature wife and family. 
• Provider & Protector : A husband will never influence his wife if he does not care for her. He should protect her both emotionally and spiritually. 
  • “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19). 
  • “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7).
  • God did make men and women different and thus due to the physical nature and strength God gave men, He has charged them with the provision and protection of their families.
  • The physical nature and strength of a man is to be managed with grace and gentleness. God did not create men to lord over women nor did he create women to simply wait on men. He made them both to complement each other through healthy companionship.
  • Usually where one is weak, the other is strong.

​ROLE OF THE WIFE 
There are ranks described—Christ, the husband, the wife, and then the children. You would not expect to walk into a doctor's office and be greeted by the doctor, measured and weighed by the receptionist, and then treated by the nurse. Right? There are certain orders to things because that's what works. 

• Mentors 
  •  Titus 2:4-5 says, "Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God." 
• Witnesses 
  • 1 Peter 3:1 says, “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives."
• Examples 
  • 1 Timothy 3:11 says, "In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.
• Encouraging & Loving 
  • "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." 
  • We are to encourage and help our husbands and children. The husband might be the head of the home but the women is the neck. She supports the home. She helps the head fulfill it's duties. 
• Noble 
  • Proverbs 31 speaks on the Noble women. We learn about her worth, how she cares to those who need her, how she provides for her family, and shares her strength with others. She fulfills these responsibilities with grace and strength. We also learn that a wife is a blessing to her husband. She is worth more than rubies! Wives can follow her example by living in the wisdom of God.
  • She cooks for her family, she buys land for her family, she works hard to be the caretaker. 
  • She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.
  • She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. 
  • She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.