"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" - Proverbs 18:22
Hey single women in the back raise your hand. I see ya!
Are you looking for a husband? I hear ya!
But in my experience you can't look, you have to let God lead.
Think about how to walk like a wife, not a girlfriend.
If you are anything like me you are constantly praying for your future spouse. I have a book of 31 prayers for my future husband that I write a prayer in weekly. You might be asking God about who your future spouse is, but sometimes while doing this we forget to develop ourselves into the men and women of God. Ladies in this time it is meant for you to develop yourself as the woman God wants you to be.
A wife is a presence of character. "Carry yourself like you've already been taken. When you carry yourself like a wife, a husband will find you. But when you carry yourself like a girlfriend, boys will play with you."
I think that Proverbs 31 is the best representation of a wife and the woman and wife I want to be.
I encourage you to read this passage in the bible and reflect on it.
In today's world feminism is at an all time high and sorry but, that's not a wife.
In this time of singleness spend it in the word of God, prepare, reflect, and pray. Grow in God. Spend time with him. This is the time where you will find your true identity in His presence. A woman who knows that her identity is in Christ will never be shaken. You are beautiful, God has created you unique with Purpose. You deserve a husband but remember to walk like a wife first.
Ladies, don't settle. Pray, wait, and trust.
There is a man that will pursue your heart like God intended.
There is a man that will make you feel safe.
There is a man that will pray for you and over you.
Wait... Do NOT settle.
Your worth is in Jesus.
When I think of what a Husband not a boy will do here is a short list:
He speaks the words of God.
“For he whom God hath sent speaketh the words of God: for God giveth not the Spirit by measure The man that comes from God speaks the words of God. Hence, listen carefully to his words. Are his words or messages in agreement to what God teaches us? Does he speak wisdom or foolishness? Of course you wouldn’t know it if you don’t know God’s words in the first place. Thus, start reading the Holy Scriptures.unto him.” – John 3:34
He practices what he speaks.
“My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” – 1 John 3:18
Words are futile without actions. So even though a man speaks the words of God, if he doesn’t practice them, you can conclude that he’s only pretending and not really the guy sent to you by the Heavens.
He doesn’t lie.
“Lying lips are abomination to the Lord: but they that deal truly are his delight.” – Proverbs 12:22
Of course God will not send you someone who is a liar. God detests lying, right?
He doesn’t corrupt your good character.
“Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.” – 1 Corinthians 15:33
God will not send you a partner who will destroy your good habits, attitude and whole character. Hence, ask yourself, does he inspire you to grow as a better person or does he influence you to do bad things?
He honors and respects you.
“Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.” –1 Peter 2:17
Your guy should know how to respect you as a woman and as person. He should honour you rather than put you in shame.
He is just and merciful.
“He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?” – Micah 6:8
God encourages us to show justice and mercy. Hence, expect that the person He will send to you will show the same, not the other way around.
He makes sacrifices.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16
The verse above tells that God made a great sacrifice to show His love to us. If a man truly loves you, he will also make sacrifices for you. It may not be a divine sacrifice like what God did, but it can be some sacrifices to save you or your relationship, like sacrificing his own ambition, material possessions and other important stuff.
He forgives you.
“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.” – Colossians 3:13
Does he forgive you when you make mistakes or does he hold grudges in his heart? This is a question you should find an answer to know if he is from God or not.
He gives you grace.
“But unto every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ.” – Ephesians 4:7
Grace is a gift given to you even if you don’t deserve it. It’s different from a blessing since you will only receive blessing if you work for it. You will realize that a man is from God if despite of your shortcomings, he’s still kind and generous to you. Even if you feel like you don’t deserve his love, he still loves you.
HE POSSESSES THE FRUITS OF THE SPIRIT
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23
You will know that a man comes from God if the following manifestations of the Spirit of God are present in him:
Love: He loves you.
God is love. If you can hear, see, feel and realize love from a guy, then he must be from God. Thus, find out if his love for you is real or not.
Joy: He has a cheerful heart.
Joyfulness is another manifestation of the Spirit of God. If your man always chooses to act positively rather than react negatively on things around him, then he might be from God.
Peace: He is a man of peace.
A man from God always wishes and prays for peacefulness. If a guy loves to quarrel and always picks up a fight with you or with other people, then you can tell he is not the one.
Longsuffering: He is patient.
Patience is a virtue that comes from God. He will not send you a man who is short-tempered, irritable, and who always complains. A guy who comes from God also endures challenges and doesn’t easily give up.
Gentleness: He is a true gentleman.
The guy from God is not only physically gentle, but he is also gentle with your mind and heart. In other words, he is considerate with your feelings and he understands your thoughts to make sure he will not hurt you physically, emotionally and mentally.
Goodness: He is a good man.
Of course, God will not send you someone who’s unkind, immoral and does evil acts. Thus, find out if it is kindness or wickedness that’s inside a guy’s heart.
Faith: He is faithful.
He should be loyal and dedicated to you. If he’s courting a lot of girls at the same time, then you know he doesn’t have faith in you.
Meekness: He can humble himself.
Meekness is sometimes described as a weakness. However, it is simply the ability of a person to humble himself and go low to avoid foolish decisions, wrongful actions, conflicts and negative consequences. A person from God is one who can overcome his pride just to ensure your well-being and make you happy.
Temperance: He has self-control.
You will know if a man has the Spirit if he practices self-discipline. Thus, try to check if he is doing things that can hurt himself, like heavy drinking, smoking, gorging on unhealthy food, or procrastinating on his work. If he is, then it’s a red flag that he’s not the man whom God has for you.
They can be your guide to finding the right guy
The signs above from the verses in the Bible can be your guide to choosing the right man whom you will spend the rest of your life. The right guy for you may not be perfect and get all of the above, but as long as he is humble, God-fearing and honest enough to admit his shortcomings and he is patient and determined to grow as a person, you know there is hope. Besides, “love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things” – 1 Corinthians 13:7.
Finally, also remember that although God will send the right guy for you, you may still lose him if you will reject him or do nothing. Therefore, don’t just spend your life waiting for the man whom God has for you but you should also strive to be the woman whom God has for him.
Well known for her love for Jesus, coffee, and having one arm. Sarah share's stories in her life in hope to help others. She wants you to know that,
"Our differences do not define who we are but are a part of the story that God has written for our lives."
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"We are all created imperfectly perfect by God, we should be proud of our imperfections and differences, they make us who we are today but do not define us, know that you are beautiful and remind yourself of this everyday."